ChatGPT helps you chat with 5000 women on Tinder, until you found the love of your life
The story of Alexander Zhadan and how he used ChatGPT to chat with 5,000 women on Tinder before meeting his wife is certainly a fascinating and quite contemporary topic. This case highlights the growing intersection between artificial intelligence and human relationships, a topic that I have addressed on several occasions on Mediaboooster. But what does this mean for the future of romance and the authenticity of relationships initiated through technology?
I have read the news on Gizmodo and I’m left in shock. It’s true that Zhadan isn’t the first to experiment with technological tools to optimize his love life, but his approach stands out for its scale and sophistication. By programming ChatGPT to filter profiles based on his preferences and handle the early stages of communication, Zhadan was able to dedicate his time and attention to the interactions that really mattered. This process is a testament to Zhadan’s technical skill and a clear example of how personalization and efficiency can coexist in the realm of digital romance.
How he used ChatGPT to make appointments
After ending a relationship in 2021, he decided to use Tinder to find a partner in Moscow. However, he soon realized that the process was tedious and unfruitful. That’s when he had the idea to use OpenAI’s GPT-2 as a dating assistant, programming it to chat with women on Tinder based on his personal preferences. Over time, and with updates to more advanced versions of ChatGPT, the program became more effective in communication, even organizing appointments.
Zhadan’s digital assistant interacted with 5,239 women specifying more than 100 quotes and, finally, helping you get to know Karina Vyalshakaeva. Although at the beginning of their relationship, Karina was unknowingly talking to ChatGPT, the couple managed to establish a genuine connection that transcended technology, leading them to live together and later get engaged.
Thinking about the topic of interaction between men and machines
The anecdote of Zhadan arriving at a date without the chocolates and flowers promised by his digital assistant highlights a vital concern: the disconnect between AI-mediated interactions and real-life expectations. This story illustrates the importance of maintaining consistency between what our digital versions promise and our real actions, a delicate balance that every technology user must manage.
On the other hand, Karina Vyalshakaeva’s acceptance of the initial use of ChatGPT in her relationship with Zhadan raises important questions about personalization and authenticity in relationships initiated or mediated by AI. Her perspective reinforces the idea that, as long as the tool is used transparently and with clear objectives, its use can be valid and useful. This point of view is crucial to understanding how AI tools can complement, not replace, genuine human interactions.
Damona Hoffman’s reflection on efficiency in the dating process and how tools like ChatGPT can accelerate the move from virtual interaction to real connection highlights a potential benefit of these technologies. Optimizing matchmaking without compromising the depth of connection seems to be a promising direction.
The story of Zhadan and Vyalshakaeva is not only a tale of modern love, but also a case study in the possibilities and limitations of technology on the personal level. As we move toward an increasingly digitalized future, stories like this remind us of the importance of maintaining humanity in our interactions, regardless of the technology we use.
In Mediaboooster, we have seen how technology transforms all aspects of our lives, and love is no exception. This case is a clear example of how innovation can be a powerful tool to achieve personal goals, as long as it is handled with care, ethics, and a focus on the authenticity of human connections.